Imagine yourself standing on a threshold to a new life. You have no ties or obligations that are holding you back. You can go anywhere, do whatever you want, be whomever you choose to be. How are you feeling? Exhilarated? Or terrified?

If you find yourself, like I am at this moment in my life, staring at this open canvas of a life, your reaction to it tells you where you need to start. If you are terrified, confused, anxious or anything leaning towards negative, your answer is very clear: You start with YOU. 

I have probably reinvented myself dozens of times. At least. To me, starting over is fun and full of possibilities. But there have been times in my life where it felt overwhelming and daunting. And those were the times where I had been reliant on what others thought of me, what I felt I “should” do or be, where my focus was external, and when I had no idea who I was or what I wanted and needed out of life. And to break out of that way of thinking is scary, especially if it’s all you’ve ever known. I saw nothing but opportunities for failure if I faced disapprovals or disdain. “Stick with the Devil you know” was an easier path.

And yet, slowly but surely, I DID take the time to find out who I was. Life has a way of bending you towards that kind of action, whether you want to see it or not. Being willing to see and ACCEPT yourself for you are in that particular moment in time opens the pathways for change. I have spent over 30 years trying to understand who I am, what works for me, and what does not. How to shift my focus from external to internal. And how to love and appreciate myself, without expectations and judgements. Has it been an easy path? Not always. But it has ALWAYS been worthwhile.

And so, for me, I am standing on a threshold to a whole new experience of living. I get to choose what work looks like for me. What partnership looks like. What my living situation looks like. I get to decide how I want to spend my time, and who I want to spent it with. The possibilities are endless and I find it exhilarating! And, I would NOT be in this position had I not put in the work. I needed to understand – and become comfortable – with ME, so that I can choose the pathway that brings the most joy, excitement, growth and potential beyond my wildest dreams.

If you are looking at a making a change and are finding it terrifying or anxiety-provoking, your answer is in front of you. Get to know YOU. Find out who you are, what you like and what you don’t like. Release the attachment to pleasing others or looking outside yourself for the answers. If doing it alone is daunting, reach out to a trusted friend, or a professional coach or therapist. Often times, letting someone else into your life sheds light on the things you can’t or don’t want to see. And above all, gift yourself this self-care and self-love. It will reward you many times over!

See you on the threshold!